January 12, 2012

Giving Your Best With Nothing In Return

T.H. White said; "Perhaps we all give the best of our hearts uncritically to those who hardly think about us in return." (One Tree Hill)

Unfortunately, most of us know this feeling all too well. We try so hard to be what the people around us need and want, but it seems that most of the time those people aren't willing to give up the same things for us...leaving us with the broken heart in the end. It's not that they've ever expected that of me, it's just how I am. It would just be nice to know that you're wanted or needed back. I know I've experienced this several times. But, over the past couple years, I've stopped trying so hard and putting in so much effort for people who aren't even trying to be in my life anymore. 

We should give without expecting anything in return, and I understand that. I'm working on that in other areas. But, it's another feeling completely when you start thinking that maybe people just don't care. They don't text you when they see something that reminds them of you or make any effort to get together with you anymore; that burden's all on you now, because they simply don't care anymore. When it starts becoming such an act of congress to hang out, it almost becomes where it's not worth it anymore. Things that are meant to be shouldn't be that hard to put together...I think they just tend to work themselves out. 

Sometimes you just have to learn to let go, and that's hard. The moral of the story here is to give your best to the people that will treat you right and stop worrying about those that don't. If they're meant to be in your life, they will put in some effort too. Until then, hold onto the wonderful memories you once had, and hope for the best in the future. It doesn't mean you have to say goodbye completely, just know that everything happens for a reason, and God will send special people into your life when others walk out. Life always has a way of working itself out. It just does. 

I found this quote online, but am not quite sure where it came from, "I thought we'd be friends for many more years, but as time goes on, our pictures fade and all of our good times seem to drift away.We've all grown up, and there's no denying that. But it's tough to tell if in that growing up, we've simply grown apart." It's hard when there's no defining moment or realization of where it all went wrong in a friendship. I think it just means that somewhere along the way someone stopped trying. 

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